Our parents have a right to know where we are, who we are with, and what we do. It is fair for them to be informed about where we are going, who we are meeting with and what we are doing. However, as we age, the idea of what is acceptable and what isn’t for us changes. We get to realize that our parents’ view on matters is quite different from what we have learnt and adapted now that we are mature to make decisions for ourselves.
This can cause a rift between two generations that were once very close. How do you balance wanting to tell your parents everything and having a sense of privacy? Or even thinking that telling them everything will only upset them? This trade-off will become more evident as your mindset matures too. There is no perfect answer, but I trust that this article will help you sort through some of these questions. I hope it helps you become a better person and make better choices in life by being honest with your parents without feeling ashamed or guilty of lying to them or acting like they aren’t as important as they once were in your life.
Honesty Is The Bedrock Of Any Good Relationship
A habit of lying to everyone and everything that has come into your life, be it your parents or anyone else, is a habit you’d do well to break. When you are dishonest, it can be very disruptive. What can make you establish a lasting connection in whatever level of relationship is honesty. Honesty builds trust and allows us to believe that the other party will act in good faith. Being honest can help you build solid relationships with your family, friends, colleagues, and business partners. With honesty, you don’t have to worry about hiding things from others – after all, there’s nothing to hide when everything is out in the open. When you are honest with others, they will get an idea of who you really are.
Honesty can also create a sense of companionship among people because everyone has been dishonest at one point or another – and it’s comforting to know that we’re not alone. Honesty is what connects people in a society or community; we all have something in common because we’ve all lied before. This shared past makes us more accepting of one another.
However, you must realise that being honest is hard work. You have to accept yourself for who you are — good and bad. You have to acknowledge your mistakes and take responsibility for them. And most importantly, being honest requires constant effort on a day-to-day basis in every relationship in your life. You will have a longer-lasting relationship with your parents if you communicate honestly with them; because honesty is often easier when done well by someone who truly cares about you.
The vast majority of kids lie to their parents at some point in their lives. Even the most honest kid is going to tell a few fibs, right? It’s just human nature. But you can help yourself improve and get better at being honest. So if you consider the journey of being honest a worthy feat, you can start by asking yourself some of these questions; What “lies” have I been telling myself lately? Have I been lying about my feelings toward my parents? Have I been lying about my feelings toward others? If so, what was I saying? What would it take to turn a new leaf and begin to tell the truth?
Reasons Why Lying To Your Parents Is Bad For You And Them
Your parents are connected to you and lying to them is not going to help your relationship with them in any way. Here are some reasons why you should avoid lying to your parents.
It Hurts Their Feelings
If you lie to your parents, they are going to be hurt by it. People want to feel like they can trust you. When they can’t trust you, they will probably feel sad and disappointed. How would you feel if someone lied to you?
Lying Causes More Problems
If you lie to your parents, they might be angry or upset with you. Usually, it makes the situation worse. They might get suspicious and start monitoring your actions more closely, which will make lying harder. They might take away privileges or even kick you out of the house because they don’t think it is safe for you to live there.
You Could Get In Trouble
Lying to your parents can cause big problems for you down the road if things go wrong due to the lies. If someone gets hurt or if something gets damaged because of a lie, your parents might get mad at you for lying about it and causing the problem in the first place.
It Bridges The Trust Between You Both
Lying to your parents will make them trust you less. Also, you could be lying to them because you don’t trust them enough to tell them the truth about what is going on in your life. This is not how your relationship with your parents should be. Rather, if you tell them that you’re going to do something, you need to keep that promise. If you set limits on them, they need to respect them. And if you love someone, then you need to be able to put your trust in them and have faith in them. All of these things are built on honesty and trustworthiness, which is why lying to your parents means more than just getting in trouble for fibbing about not doing your chores or borrowing the car without permission. It means that you’re also putting a strain on that relationship by breaking the promise of trust between you and your mom or dad.
How To Stop Lying To Your Parents
Learning how to stop lying to parents and be a better person is an ongoing journey that you need to take on yourself. However, in this article, I’ll try to provide you with several tips to take that will help you on that journey.
Start By Admitting That You Have A Problem
If you lie to your parents all the time, there’s a problem. So how do you stop? The first step is recognizing that you have a problem. When you’re ready to admit this, start small:
- Tell one of your parents or guardians that you’ve been lying and that it needs to stop.
- Tell them why it needs to stop (so it doesn’t spread) and how it will help (so they understand).
- Stick with the truth unless absolutely necessary!
Identify Why You Lie
It is best if you know why you are lying in the first place; otherwise, it will be hard for you to stop doing it. If your parents always nag at you, ask yourself whether they have told you something that makes you feel bad or whether it is just their way of treating you. They may be telling you off because they think they are helping or protecting you from some harm. Truth is, you need to take some time out to figure out why you lie, the conditions that surround you, the things you are going through that makes you feel you should not own up to your mistakes, or that you should simply cover up for them. To develop a more honest relationship with your parents, then you must identify why you lie in the first place.
Be Careful When Speaking
A very important step in being honest with your parents is learning how not to misrepresent yourself or others by speaking in ways that are not genuine or factual (i.e., instead of talking about what you did today, talk about what happened yesterday). This will require some practice, but if done well, this step will prevent you from making mistakes often made by liars (such as saying things like “I was at the park today when I met her” when really she was nowhere near).
Don’t Take Other People’s Words Literally
Trying to be a good person and report back literally what was said or something you heard or read could sometimes make you come up with some very misleading report and make you come off as a “liar”. When we speak, we normally mean what we say. But sometimes, our words can be misinterpreted and taken out of context, which is where miscommunication occurs. In order to avoid this dilemma, be aware of the following guidelines:
- Ask clarifying questions
- Be an active listener; pay attention when you are being spoken to
- Listen to others carefully and pay attention to their body language and tone of voice for further cues. This is because the tone of voice and body language are great indicators of whether someone is being literal or figurative.
Speak The Truth Before It Gets Out Of Hand
The more you lie, the harder it will be to tell the truth to your parents. It is important that you stop lying to your parents as soon as possible because it can quickly get out of hand. It may feel like a harmless little white lie, but it can quickly lead to bigger ones. When you keep lying to your parents about one thing, they will start to lose trust in you. Your lies also create a barrier between you and your parents, which can make it difficult for them to talk with you about important things.
Go Over The Excuses You Tell Your Parents
How to stop lying? If you truly want to stop lying to them, it’s a gradual process. If you have been giving your parents excuses for your misdeeds, and you know within yourself that you are being dishonest, then this might be the best time for you to review these. It’s important that you critically examine every situation and determine to be honest, rather than giving flimsy excuses. If there are excuses that you have perpetually given them, review them and let honesty be your watchword.
Acknowledge The Impact Of Lying On Your Relationship With Them
Lying to your parents can be extremely hard, especially if they are very strict on you. Lying to your parents can be very harmful, because if they find out about it, they will stop trusting you. You have to come to terms with all these. First of all, be open with them and talk to them about everything you are doing. If they ask you a question, answer it honestly without making excuses or changing the subject. If something is wrong in your life, tell them about it instead of trying to hide it from them. They will not judge you for it but help you deal with it instead of letting it go on for a long time and getting worse until one day you realize what is happening, but by then, it might be too late.
Realize That Lying To Your Parents Doesn’t Make Them Love You More
It’s easy to get caught up in the lies we tell parents, family members and even ourselves. We think that we have nothing to hide. “I was just having fun.” “My secret is safe with me.” “No one can see it or understand what I am going through.” But it isn’t that simple. Never tell lies to your parents or any other family member for that matter. Lies will only make them hate you more, as they will see through your facade that you are not who you say you are. If you try to lie to your parents, they will likely catch you at it and end up punishing you just as much as they would if they found out the truth at a later date.
Start Being Honest With Yourself About Your Mistakes
I will explain to you how you are not being honest with yourself. You are not being honest in the sense that you are lying. You aren’t using words that imply approval of your actions or general approval of your behavior. You aren’t saying, “Yes, my mom and dad will support me if I do this or do that.” Instead, you’re saying things like, “I don’t have time to seek for their approval because this or that, but I have time for myself and my work, so…I’m sure they will understand why I’m doing this….”. If you want to be who you want to be, then stop hiding behind the cover-ups of lies and deceitfulness.
Make Your Heart The Guide To Right And Wrong
As a youth, your parents are the only adults who have taught you what is right and wrong. And those lessons have shaped your values. But as time goes on, things change. You learn more about life, you become a parent yourself, and this can only lead to one conclusion: your values are no longer the same as those of your parents. So how do you reconcile your parents’ die-hard principles with your own reality? Let your heart guide you into making judgments and conclusions on matters. Let your heart also teach you what to say, which can be justifiable both by your parents and others around you.
Place Value On Honoring Your Parents
Lies make it hard for you to trust each other. If you cannot trust each other, how can you love each other? If you think your parents will never understand you, how can you respect them? Lies create distance between you and your parents. They also build walls because they create distrust. When you are honest, you give room for a relationship built on trust and honor. When you do this, these barriers disappear, and love becomes stronger.
Be Honest When It Would Be Easy To Lie
Being honest with your parents is a vital life skill. It can help you avoid awkward situations and serious problems as you get older. There are some situations where you could easily get away with a lie, and this is the type called “white lie”. White lies are not easily detected; For example, if you are asked, “Did you enjoy the food?” and your response is: “Oh, of course, I did, it was fantastic”. But you actually did not. In fact, you think the food was very tasteless. That’s a white lie you told because it’s harmless and not easy to detect. But you could do yourself a lot of good, by cultivating the habit of speaking the truth even when you can easily get away with it, this will help you to be a more honest and better person.
Own Your Choices, Do The Right Thing
We don’t live in a perfect world. There are times when we lie to our parents. It’s part of the ritual. We choose to be honest or lie and pay homage to our own fears, fears that have become more ingrained over time. We told our parents that we were going to college; that one day, we would make sure that we could support ourselves and take care of ourselves. We lied about our GPA and the grades we received so that they wouldn’t worry. We lied about how much money we had saved up so that they wouldn’t be mad at us for not working. We tell them where we go on vacation and how long it is, but then we go off-script and say something different that they find out later on in conversation with someone else who knows us better than they do.
So many things are all wrapped up in lies because it feels like they’re the truth. The truth is, your very existence has a purpose, but you let your parent or other authority figure interpret it in their way rather than your own way; you don’t share your true feelings with them because you worry about being judged for something you said or did wrong; you don’t want to hurt their feelings by telling them the truth even if it hurts their heart more than anything else could hurt them. You have to learn that the right way is honesty, and you have to make that choice, no matter how difficult, and stick to it.
How Can You Avoid Lying In The Future Without Giving Up Who You Truly Are?
It’s simple, interact with people more often. It is given that humans are social animals. The more you interact with people from the inside, the more you learn about them. No exceptions. For this reason, it is important for parents to expose their children to people and interactions from an early age. A study conducted by researchers at the University of British Columbia found that kids who were exposed to a range of human interactions from birth had better balance in relationships later on in life. This is because interacting with others helps us develop social relationships and develop empathy towards others. It also helps us develop moral judgments and decision-making skills, which allow us to understand the lives of others better.
Curiosity encourages us to learn about other people’s lives, stories, and thoughts; it helps us gain empathy towards others, helps us understand other people better, and eventually make better decisions. In another study conducted by researchers at the University of British Columbia, they found that children exposed to family members interacting with each other had stronger self-esteem than those not exposed to family interaction during infancy.
The reasons for this are as follows:
1) Family interaction serves as a foundation for social relationships later in life, leading to improved self-esteem among individuals. It may be argued that exposure to family interaction during infancy influences one’s ability to form close relationships in adulthood as well (the research cited above). One could also argue that exposure to family interaction during infancy gives children a sense of belonging with their families, which helps them relate well with their parents in adulthood.
2) Family interaction provides a foundation for learning how one should behave toward others based on one’s values and beliefs (the research cited above). If your value system is based on having friends, then you will naturally want your friends to behave properly toward you. If your value system is based on an ethical worldview such as “lying is not the best policy”, you would naturally attract people who share these same views with you.
It may be difficult to stop lying to your parents, but it is possible. Just examine your reasons for doing so, and begin by making a clear decision that you want to be honest with them. Let your parents know that you want to break the cycle of lies with them, and as they learn how to believe in you again, they will start to trust you more. You don’t need to live in fear of upsetting or disappointing them any longer—be honest now. You deserve to be happy, and honesty might be the best way to achieve that happiness.
Honesty is an integral part of every healthy relationship, and I truly believe that keeping your parents’ trust can only help this process. By following these tips, you can create more open, stronger, healthier, happier relationships with the most important people to you.