Ruth Oriowo
Ever heard the saying ‘teamwork makes the dream work’? Well, it’s not just a catchy phrase to toss around like confetti at a party.
It’s a mantra that could save your relationship and give your partner’s aspirations the boost they need.
As their biggest fan and confidant, you’re naturally inclined to play a starring role in the cast, lifting them up and cheering them on as they chase their dreams.
Yet, if you’ve ever found yourself fumbling your lines or missing cues, you’re not alone.
Maybe it’s your confusion about their dream’s specifics, or perhaps it’s the uncertainty about how to offer meaningful support without turning into an overbearing coach.
Whatever the case, get ready to do your best as a great supporter because, in the upcoming paragraphs, I’ll share reasons that’ll make you nod your head in recognition and laugh at the familiarity of it all.
The goal isn’t to point fingers but rather to acknowledge your human quirks and learn how to transform them into strengths.
Welcome to the enlightening exploration of the reasons you suck at supporting your partner’s dreams – a journey that promises a mix of relatability and a touch of insight.
By the end of this eye-opening post, you’ll be armed not only with a newfound appreciation for the complexity of support but also with valuable insights to navigate this rewarding yet sometimes tricky role.
1. Doing Selective Hearing
Imagine your partner’s excitement filling the room as they share their dreams with you. They’re talking about things that light up their eyes and make their heart race.
But wait, what’s that? It’s like your ears have decided to take a nap at the most important moment.
That’s what I call selective hearing – when your brain seems to filter out the dreams your partner is sharing.
It’s not that you’re trying to be uninterested, but sometimes your ears tune in to the background noise rather than the symphony of dreams.
So, when your partner excitedly tells you about their plans to start a business or learn a new skill, and you respond with a vague “Hmm,” it’s like a missed cue in a play.
But fear not because the spotlight is still on you.
By becoming aware of your selective hearing tendencies, you’re taking the first step toward being a better partner in dream-supporting.
So, next time your partner opens up about their aspirations, put down the distractions, turn up the volume on your listening, and let their dreams take centre stage.
Trust me, the applause will be worth it. Now, let’s see the next reason.
2. Having a Dream Deflation Habit
No one would like it when they are all excited about their dreams – like they’re floating on a cloud of possibilities.
But there’s a tiny problem: you unintentionally pop their dream bubble.
It’s like deflating a balloon at a party. This is what we call the dream deflation habit.
When your partner shares their big dreams, and you respond with doubts or reasons why it won’t work, it’s like putting a pin on their balloon of enthusiasm.
You might not mean to be a dream-buster, but your words can make their dreams shrink.
But here’s the thing – you can be a dream cheerleader instead! Instead of saying, “That sounds risky,” try, “I believe in you, and we can work through the challenges together.”
By switching up your words, you’re helping your partner’s dreams stay big and buoyant.
So, next time your partner shares their dreams, be the wind beneath their wings, not the pin that pops their balloon. Your support can make their dreams soar.
The next is staying in your comfort zone.
3. Stay In Your Comfort Zone
Picture your partner with a map, ready to explore new places – not just on vacation, but in life.
They’re talking about trying new things, taking risks, and chasing their dreams.
But there’s a twist: you prefer to stay in your comfort zone. It’s like being in a cosy room while they’re off on an adventure.
When your partner’s dreams involve stepping outside their comfort zone, and you feel uneasy or try to hold them back, it’s like putting a fence around their dreams.
It’s not that you want to be a dream jailer, but your own comfort zone might make your partner’s dreams feel scary.
But here’s the chance to be an adventure ally! Instead of clinging to the familiar, you can try stepping out of your own comfort zone, too.
Support your partner’s dreams by saying, “Let’s do this together” instead of “But what if it goes wrong?”
Your support could be the boost they need to conquer new horizons.
So, when your partner’s dreams involve stepping into the unknown, take a deep breath, hold their hand, and venture into the adventure together.
Who knows, you might even find new parts of your own comfort zone along the way.
4. Being a Future Prediction Guru
Now, whenever your partner shares their dreams with you – it’s like they’re showing you a colourful painting of what they want in the future.
But wait, you start predicting all the ways things could go wrong. This is what we call the future prediction habit.
When your partner talks about their dreams, and you immediately start saying things like, “That won’t work” or “It’s too hard,” it’s like throwing rain on their sunny painting.
You might not mean to be a dream downer, but your predictions can make their dreams look blurry.
Here’s the twist: You can be a dream supporter instead of a future fortune teller. Instead of predicting problems, try saying, “I’m here for you, and we can figure things out together.
By changing your words, you’re adding bright colours back to their dream painting.
So, next time your partner talks about their dreams, be their positivity partner, not their dream critic.
Your support can help their dreams shine even brighter.The next is being a time bandit extraordinaire.
5. Being a Time Bandit Extraordinaire
Imagine your partner sharing their dreams with you – it’s like they’re handing you a treasure chest filled with their hopes and wishes.
But hold on, you’re the time bandit who steals their treasure by saying, “We don’t have time for that.” This is what we call the time bandit habit.
When your partner talks about their dreams, and you immediately dismiss them because of time constraints, it’s like slamming the treasure chest shut.
You might not mean to be a dream thief, but your words can make their dreams feel out of reach.
Here’s the flip side: You can be a time wizard!
Instead of stealing their dream treasure, you can help them find time by saying, “Let’s figure out a plan” instead of “There’s no time.”
By changing your tune, you’re handing back their treasure chest and helping them unlock their dreams.
So, the next time your partner shares their dreams, be their time ally, not their dream snatcher.
Your support can make their dreams feel more achievable than ever.
Final Thoughts
You’ve just earned your stripes in the art of dream support!
From banishing selective hearing to dismantling the comfort zone mayor’s throne, you’ve embarked on a journey that’s about more than just reading.
It’s about being the kind of partner who uplifts, encourages, and ignites passions.
But hold on, the adventure doesn’t stop here.
Your thoughts and questions on this post about reasons you suck at supporting your partner’s dreams matter to us.
I want to hear your tales of triumphs, the challenges you’ve conquered, and the moments that have made you both stronger.
So, don’t be shy! Drop your comments below, share this post with fellow dream supporters, and let’s create a community of partners who are rocking at lifting each other’s dreams to the stars..
Goodbye for now, and remember – your love story is unfolding in every dream you support.
