Ruth Oriowo
Imagine you’re holding a magical wand that can light up your partner’s day with a single wave.
Making them feel like the most special person in the universe – that’s the enchanting power you possess.
But, let’s be honest, even the best wizards stumble sometimes.
Yes, they do, and I will explain some reasons you suck at making your partner feel special.
Don’t worry, this isn’t a scolding session; it’s a journey of giggles, insights, and small changes that can turn your partner’s frown upside down.
You might not intend to be a ‘special moment’ skipper, but sometimes life’s distractions steal the spotlight.
It’s like they’re showing you a treasure chest of their day’s adventures, and you’re too busy counting the coins in your own mental vault.
But fear not, because being a master of making your partner feel special doesn’t require a PhD in romance.
It’s about recognizing those moments, putting down the distractions, and saying, “Hey, I’m here, and you matter.”
It’s all about paying attention, listening to their hints, and adding a dash of creativity.
Trust me, it doesn’t have to be an elaborate fireworks display; even a heartfelt letter or their favourite homemade cookies can work wonders.
A simple note on the fridge or a surprise cup of their favourite tea can be the sunlight your partner’s heart craves.
Now, before you think this is a crash course in perfection, relax. I am about to take you on a ride to some five reasons you suck at making your partner feel special.
1. Having a Distracted Attention
Imagine your partner is trying to talk to you, and it’s like you’re in a different world.
You might be looking at your phone the TV, or just lost in your own thoughts.
It’s like they’re invisible, and that makes them feel really sad. This is called having distracted attention.
When your partner wants to share something with you, but you’re not really paying attention, it’s like they’re speaking to a wall.
You might not mean to make them feel unimportant, but your lack of focus can hurt their feelings.
Imagine if you were telling them a story, and they were too busy playing a game to listen.
You’d feel like your story didn’t matter, right? That’s how your partner might feel when you’re not giving them your full attention.
But here’s the good part: you can fix this! It’s about putting down your phone or turning off the TV when they want to talk.
Look at them, listen carefully, and show them that you care about what they’re saying.
It’s like giving them a big warm hug with your attention.
Remember, making your partner feel special is like planting flowers in their heart. And paying attention when they talk is like giving those flowers water and sunshine.
So, the next time your partner wants to share something put down the distractions and be there for them.
It’s a simple way to make them feel loved and valued.
2. Having the Lack of Thoughtful Gestures
Imagine it’s your partner’s birthday, and you give them a plain white envelope with no card or gift inside.
This is what happens when there’s a lack of thoughtful gestures.
When special occasions come up, like birthdays or anniversaries, and you don’t plan anything nice, it can make your partner feel like you don’t really care.
It’s like forgetting to celebrate their important day. Imagine if you were excited about something and your partner didn’t seem to care.
You’d feel sad and disappointed, right? That’s how they might feel when you don’t put effort into making their special moments memorable.
But don’t worry, you can turn this around! Thoughtful gestures don’t have to be big or expensive.
It’s about showing that you thought about them. You could write a sweet note, make their favourite meal, or plan a simple surprise.
It’s like adding a sprinkle of happiness to their day. Remember, making your partner feel special is like giving them a warm hug for their heart.
Thoughtful gestures are like wrapping that hug in a pretty gift box.
So, the next time a special day comes up, think about what would make them smile. It’s a small way to make them feel loved and cherished.
3. Having the Lack of Little Moments of Affection
Imagine you and your partner are like two puzzle pieces that fit perfectly together.
Little moments of affection are the glue that keeps those puzzle pieces connected.
But if you’re not giving those sweet moments often, it’s like the puzzle pieces are slowly drifting apart.
Little moments of affection are like surprise hugs, sweet compliments, or holding hands while walking.
When these moments are rare, your partner might feel like you’re not as close as you used to be. It’s like missing out on warm hugs on a chilly day.
Think about how you feel when your partner does something small and sweet just because they care about you.
It makes your heart feel all fuzzy and happy, right? That’s what little moments of affection do – they make your partner’s heart feel fuzzy and loved.
But don’t worry, you can change this! You don’t need big gestures to make your partner feel special. It’s the little things that matter.
Leaving a cute note, giving them a surprise peck on the cheek, or even a quick “I love you” text can do the trick.
These moments are like little drops of love that fill up their heart.
Remember, making your partner feel special is like giving them a cosy blanket for their heart.
Little moments of affection are like the soft threads that make that blanket warm and snug.
So, next time you’re watching TV together or passing by each other in the kitchen, share a smile, a hug, or a playful wink.
It’s a simple way to make your partner feel cherished and adored.
4. Making Comparisons and Expectations
Imagine if every time you gave your partner a gift, you said, “Well, my friend got a better gift than this.”
It’s like you’re taking away the sparkle from their present. This is what happens when comparisons and expectations come into play.
When you compare your relationship to others or expect things to be like a fairy tale, it can make your partner feel like they’re not enough.
It’s like you’re reading a storybook and wanting your real-life story to match it perfectly.
Think about how you’d feel if your partner said, “Why can’t you be more like this person?”
It would hurt, right? That’s how your partner might feel when you compare them to others.
But here’s the bright side: you can change this! Instead of comparing or having unrealistic expectations, focus on what makes your relationship special.
Celebrate your unique moments and cherish your partner for who they are, not who you want them to be.
Remember, making your partner feel special is like planting a garden of love.
Comparisons and expectations are like weeds that can choke that garden.
So, every time you catch yourself comparing or expecting too much, take a deep breath and remind yourself of the wonderful things that make your relationship one-of-a-kind.
It’s a simple way to make your partner feel valued and loved just as they are.
5. Neglecting Their Interests and Dreams
Imagine your partner is excitedly telling you about something they love – maybe it’s a hobby, a goal, or a dream.
But you’re not paying attention, or worse, you’re dismissive about it.
It’s like throwing a bucket of cold water on their excitement. This is what happens when you neglect their interests and dreams.
When your partner shares something important to them, and you don’t show interest or even discourage them, it can make them feel like you don’t really care about their happiness.
It’s like saying their passions are not worth your time.
Imagine if you were talking about your favourite movie, and your partner acted like it was boring.
You’d feel hurt, right? That’s how your partner might feel when you don’t pay attention to their interests.
But don’t worry, you can make a positive change! Instead of brushing off their interests, show curiosity.
Ask them questions, listen to their stories, and support their dreams.
Even if you don’t share the same passion, your interest will mean the world to them.
Remember, making your partner feel special is like giving them a warm hug for their heart.
Being interested in their interests and dreams is like wrapping that hug in a cosy blanket.
So, the next time they’re excited about something, ask them to tell you more.
It’s a simple way to show them that what matters to them also matters to you.
Conclusion
So, there you have it – a journey through the ins and outs of making your partner feel special.
I’ve explored the reasons why sometimes we miss the mark, and it’s not about pointing fingers or feeling guilty.
It’s about learning, growing, and choosing to do better.
Remember, relationships are like delicate flowers that need care, attention, and a little sunshine.
The good news is that you have the power to nurture and strengthen your bond by being aware of these pitfalls.
By avoiding distracted attention, adding thoughtful gestures, sprinkling little moments of affection, ditching comparisons and expectations, and embracing your partner’s interests and dreams, you’re taking steps toward creating a warm and loving connection.
Take this newfound knowledge, apply it with love, and watch your relationship flourish.
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